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Raistlin

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Need help with a teenager
« on: December 14, 2021, 05:30:37 AM »
So my boy (15 going on 16) is giving us grey hair.
Yes written on cellphone - forgive typos.
Draakie & myself are sorta, at our breaking point.
The kid has respect issues ? How to fix ?
0. He feels asking him to help out
around the house sporadically every 4 to 7 days is a massive
ask. He throws (enumerated) times in our faces
and says 'he always' helps. Then completely ignores
my and the wife's non-negotiables - the rest....
1. Air your room (open a window ever-so often). It stinks.
2. Do not stack plates, with half eaten food in your room for days on end.
3. Avoid drinking all the milk, some-one might want a cup of coffee. He physically drinks 8 liters a week.
4. Please leave no school-books or clothing on the floor. (He's lost 7 books [which we need to pay premiums for]  over the last 4 years.
Any advise ????
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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #1 on: December 14, 2021, 06:34:06 AM »
(15 going on 16)

Yeah, that's a difficult age. I consulted my own "15 going on 16" for advice, no luck :cool:

What I could imagine is to link his weekly pocket money to a point system. Offer to double it if he gets 100 points, and zero if he gets zero points.

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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #2 on: December 14, 2021, 06:47:16 AM »
Hi Raistlin
I had similar problems. It's a difficult age for parents, but also for the children.
Unfortunately, there is no one-size-fits-all solution, but keep an eye on the relationship with your wife, as it can suffer from this situation too.

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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #3 on: December 14, 2021, 08:14:42 AM »
Any advise ????
Patience is a virtue to be conquered.

0-Say thanks when he do or not do something. In both cases.
This is based in "don't think in an elephant". I told to not think.
3-I found a challenger  :azn:
I'd rather be this ambulant metamorphosis than to have that old opinion about everything

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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #4 on: December 14, 2021, 02:22:11 PM »
Rudi,

Sounds like he is an angel like we were.  :tongue:
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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #5 on: December 15, 2021, 05:03:12 AM »
ha ha .. welcome to parenthood ....i expect most of the aged parents on here have experienced something similar ...some options
0) buy them a car and driving lessons ... this is about as subtle as i get
1) disconnect the internet
2) help to find him/her a girlfriend/boyfriend [this could go very wrong btw]
3)  wait a year and hopefully he/she will bugger off to university with a car load of stuff
4) put your own music on very loudly for extended periods
...... > 10) is justifiable homicide but i dont think we want to go there

im sure others on this site have better strategies ?????
regards mikeb

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Re: Need help with a teenager
« Reply #6 on: December 19, 2021, 06:22:04 AM »
Thanks my masters, all advice MUCH appreciated.
I really mean that. Much fuzzy stuff (more emotional)
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